Having five kids’ means I know what it is like to be busy. I am constantly on the go, be it at my children’s activities or doing things around the house. I love being a mom and each one of my children, but there is a downside to having this many children. While I would not trade my life for anything, I have had to come to a few realizations, some I am sure many moms in a big family have thought of many times before.
Short On Time
When you have multiple children, there never seems to be enough time. I find it hard to cultivate individual relationships with my children because I do not have hours each day to devote to each child. Some of my children require more attention while others are fine on their own. I have learned not to beat myself up about the amount of time I spend with each child individually but do make it a point to carve out time each weekend for one child. Each child gets a turn so we can catch up on the week and just get to know each other better. The one-on-one time is important so that we can build a solid relationship for the future.
Delegating Is Not Always Fun
I hate delegating tasks between my husband and I when it comes to the kids. Because our kids are so involved in school and extra activities, we both have to spread out to get the kids to their events. I hate having to miss out on a ballet performance because another child has a doctor’s appointment. But when you have five kids you have to delegate who goes where and I do end up missing out on things. We try to take turns so that we both get to see performances, sports events, etc., without missing too many.
Fights Can Last Longer
When you have two kids, you can usually squash a problem in a few minutes. When you have five children, the fights can last much longer. The kids will take sides and you have to determine who is right and who is wrong, or just try to settle everyone down so that you can talk about what is going on. This can be frustrating, especially when five little mouths are going all at once. This is definitely a downside to having multiple children.
Cost of Living
The cost of living is much higher when you have more children. You have more mouths to feed, need more clothes, etc. You will have to spend more money to keep your children happy and healthy, which can be a burden on parents.
While having five children is hard, I would not change it for the world. I love each of my children and everyone brings something special into my life. When the kids are older and not so boisterous, you will remember the crazy days with fondness and wish for nothing more than to go back to when it was crazy and annoying!